Orgasm - The Big 'OH'

Orgasm, in my opinion, is overrated. Orgasm is not the big deal we've been making it out to be. Listen up! I've got nothing against orgasm. I hope everyone has lots of them. Viva la orgasm! It's when we allow the quest for orgasm to take over running the show that it causes so many problems.

One problem about orgasm is, all the hype. If you think you haven't had one, then it is a big deal. You think there is this big awesome experience that you are missing. Even people who have had perfectly good orgasms think there is some great thing, yet to be experienced.

Most people have had an orgasm. Sometime, someplace, hot horny, happy, touching, feel good, yes! More - then - wham! Ooh. Yes, nice OK. So, is that all there is? Have you felt a little orgasm as opposed to a big orgasm? Is your orgasms as big and plentiful as they possible could be. How can we compare or measure a feeling such as this?

Orgasms come in a variety of flavors, intensity, sensation. I want more of this, better of this. Wait a minute, think about this. What happens after orgasm, before the next one that is. Nothing, sex is over. Well maybe not exactly but that hot happy warm yummy is -Wham- over, shifted, changed.

OOPS excuse me, darn it, I had another orgasm, so sorry, oh well, lets take a break and then keep going.

Orgasm Theory?
Pause for a moment to recall the best orgasm you ever had. Was the orgasm itself satisfying? What about all the rest of what was going on during that especially good memory? What part of the experience was most satisfying? How can we know if the best orgasm of our life, is the best orgasm possible? See how tricky orgasm theory can be?

Somewhere along the line we've programmed ourselves that we must care about our partners orgasm. Someone suggested that "coming together" meant having an orgasm together at the same time. Caring about our partners pleasure is very different than being concerned about causing an orgasm.

There is way too much emphasis on orgasm.

Enjoy climbing the mountain and stop to rest along the way. Enjoy the view, smell the roses, listen to the sweet sounds, savor the experience in smaller tasty morsels. Take your time and be consciously present for each moment. See for yourself, there are greater thrills than orgasm.